Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself? Bookmark and Share

Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself?

“To thine own self be true.”

Shakespeare said it best. Of course, he was a dude, and having a penis seems to make it easier to live by this sentiment. (Yep, starting of this post with the “P” word!)

I’ve never met a woman of any age who hasn’t struggled with being true to herself. From the time we are born, we seem to spend our lives living up to others’ expectations and needs. The good news, I’m finding, is that with age, we begin to listen to our needs. Or maybe it’s that our needs ...

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Can Home Depot Make You Hotter? Bookmark and Share

Can Home Depot Make You Hotter?

 Cat calls, whistles, inappropriate under-the-breath comments.

Haven’t we women all felt that sickening feeling in the pits of our stomachs when we must walk solo passed a group of guys? We shrink up as small as possible as we slink by, desperately telling ourselves, “don’t make eye contact, don’t make eye contact” while simultaneously praying, “please don’t look at me, please don’t look at me.”

These situations drove me crazy in my 20s and early 30s. I’d taken enough women’s lit classes in college to know that all of these things were degrading ...

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Times of Transition: How to Forge Through the Rings of Hell Bookmark and Share

Times of Transition: How to Forge Through the Rings of Hell

This week I found myself sobbing uncontrollably in the bathroom. This was unexpected given that I’m not at all a crybaby. (Friends have told me I’d feel better if I cried more, but isn’t stoicism so much more productive?)

It seems, however, the transition from renting urbanite to suburban home owner—and all that entailed mentally and physically—had taken me down the road toward a pity party of one.

What I’ve learned about transitions in the past decade is that they are essential to our growth, but they are also akin to forging through Dante ...

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Why We Finally Caved to the ‘American Dream’ Bookmark and Share

Why We Finally Caved to the ‘American Dream’

My husband and I have done two things we said we’d never do (and neither was reminiscent of 50 Shades of Grey). We bought a house and it’s in the suburbs.

Isn’t this the American Dream? Perhaps for many people it is, but it’s never been our dream.

After a condo-owning fiasco, we had sworn we’d never own property again. We’d happily fork over cash to a landlord if it meant trading in home maintenance and a hefty mortgage for more fun things, like dining out and European vacations.

Plus, our anti-car sentiment has ...

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Walking Through A College Campus Evokes Mixed Emotions Bookmark and Share

My neighborhood has been teeming with new blood for the past two weeks—not with babies but instead with baby-faced college students.

The townhouse we’ll be moving from in two weeks is just blocks from a college campus, and fresh-faced youngsters have descended upon the area like locusts. The electrifying combo of fear and excitement radiates off them like summer’s last heat.

The other day as I walked through the heart of the urban campus on an errand, I couldn’t go more than 20 feet without seeing another newbie in a “class of 2018” t-shirt walking my ...

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