Category archives: Aging Gracefully
This month one of my book clubs read
“Where’d You Go, Bernadette?,” a fictional story of a highly creative,
up-and-coming architect who becomes a recluse after suffering a professionally
tragedy. After years of keeping to herself—and becoming more than a bit nutty
in the process—she actually physically disappears to Antarctica of all places,
and her husband and daughter must find her.
I wanted to love the book since it had
rave reviews, but even though it was funny at times, I couldn’t suspend my
disbelief enough. Antarctica? Really?
The real problem, though, was that I
Have you ever felt that confusing
feeling that you’ve slipped into some kind of time-warped parallel universe? I’m
not talking about time travel or even déjà vu. I’m referring to the feeling you
get when you are experiencing a moment from the viewpoint of yourself at two
different ages in time.
This past weekend I experienced a
trifecta of space-time weirdness when in the course of one evening, I felt 13,
22 and 41.
My husband and I went out for dinner and
drinks with my college and post-college roommate and her husband. At one point
Cat calls, whistles, inappropriate under-the-breath
Haven’t we women all felt that sickening
feeling in the pits of our stomachs when we must walk solo passed a group of guys?
We shrink up as small as possible as we slink by, desperately telling
ourselves, “don’t make eye contact, don’t make eye contact” while
simultaneously praying, “please don’t look at me, please don’t look at me.”
These situations drove me crazy in my
20s and early 30s. I’d taken enough women’s lit classes in college to know that
all of these things were degrading ...
Back in college, we used to play a little game
called “I Never.” Perhaps you’ve heard of it? One person says something they’ve
never done and those who have done said thing must drink.
It’s an excellent way to learn people’s deepest
darkest secrets, thereby creating lifelong friendships based on fear that the horrible
things you’ve done could be shared. The game creates way stronger bonds than
As my college years passed, more things were taken
off my “I never” list. Some of these items were originally on the “I would
never” list ...
The morning DJs today gave an on-air quiz to determine
whether you’ve hit middle-age. Based on this highly scientific survey, I
learned that I am not quite there yet, which is exactly what I keep telling my
One of the questions stood out, however. It was “are
you increasingly nostalgic?” Well, I’ve been nostalgic since I was born—seriously
my 5-year-old self probably pined for the days when I was a younger and more
Yet, even my abnormally high nostalgia levels are
on the uptick. I was blaming Facebook posts from people I knew in ...