Category archives: Aging Gracefully

How Do We Keep From Losing Ourselves? Bookmark and Share

How Do We Keep From Losing Ourselves?

This month one of my book clubs read “Where’d You Go, Bernadette?,” a fictional story of a highly creative, up-and-coming architect who becomes a recluse after suffering a professionally tragedy. After years of keeping to herself—and becoming more than a bit nutty in the process—she actually physically disappears to Antarctica of all places, and her husband and daughter must find her. 

I wanted to love the book since it had rave reviews, but even though it was funny at times, I couldn’t suspend my disbelief enough. Antarctica? Really?

The real problem, though, was that I somehow ...

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Time Travel: 40-Something Style Bookmark and Share

Time Travel: 40-Something Style

Have you ever felt that confusing feeling that you’ve slipped into some kind of time-warped parallel universe? I’m not talking about time travel or even déjà vu. I’m referring to the feeling you get when you are experiencing a moment from the viewpoint of yourself at two different ages in time.

This past weekend I experienced a trifecta of space-time weirdness when in the course of one evening, I felt 13, 22 and 41.

My husband and I went out for dinner and drinks with my college and post-college roommate and her husband. At one point in ...

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Can Home Depot Make You Hotter? Bookmark and Share

Can Home Depot Make You Hotter?

 Cat calls, whistles, inappropriate under-the-breath comments.

Haven’t we women all felt that sickening feeling in the pits of our stomachs when we must walk solo passed a group of guys? We shrink up as small as possible as we slink by, desperately telling ourselves, “don’t make eye contact, don’t make eye contact” while simultaneously praying, “please don’t look at me, please don’t look at me.”

These situations drove me crazy in my 20s and early 30s. I’d taken enough women’s lit classes in college to know that all of these things were degrading ...

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Never Say Never Bookmark and Share

Never Say Never

Back in college, we used to play a little game called “I Never.” Perhaps you’ve heard of it? One person says something they’ve never done and those who have done said thing must drink.

It’s an excellent way to learn people’s deepest darkest secrets, thereby creating lifelong friendships based on fear that the horrible things you’ve done could be shared. The game creates way stronger bonds than pinky swearing.

As my college years passed, more things were taken off my “I never” list. Some of these items were originally on the “I would never” list ...

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Could Books Be the Fountain of Youth? Bookmark and Share

Could Books Be the Fountain of Youth?

The morning DJs today gave an on-air quiz to determine whether you’ve hit middle-age. Based on this highly scientific survey, I learned that I am not quite there yet, which is exactly what I keep telling my husband. 

One of the questions stood out, however. It was “are you increasingly nostalgic?” Well, I’ve been nostalgic since I was born—seriously my 5-year-old self probably pined for the days when I was a younger and more carefree toddler.

 Yet, even my abnormally high nostalgia levels are on the uptick. I was blaming Facebook posts from people I knew in ...

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