Category archives: Aging Gracefully
I’ve been thinking of my grandfather lately, which
is odd because he passed away two decades ago and I haven’t thought much about
him since. The ugly truth is that his death didn’t really affect me, and it
wasn’t all that surprising.
Though my grandfather was only 69 at the time, he
had already suffered one heart attack and had developed emphysema caused by
years of smoking a pipe. A number of his siblings had already died of heart
What I remember most about his funeral was my
dad’s grief and how it baffled ...
As I was reading an article on happiness—much of
the tips I’ve heard before—the final fact caught my eye. It said that people
naturally become happier with age, particularly after hitting middle age.
Being on the cusp of middle age, I was
intrigued. The article mentioned a number of scientific theories: we remember
happy memories more strongly than negative ones, we weed out people and things
that make us unhappy and we focus less on goals and more on well-being.
This last part aligns with a theory I’ve been
developing about capacity. In talking with friends ...
In preparation for an upcoming family weekend at an indoor
water park, I made a bold move. I found my bikini tucked in the back of the
drawer and put it on—in the dead of winter. Brave!
Shockingly, my pasty-white reflection in the mirror didn’t
cause me to run screaming from the bathroom and into the first pair of
sweatpants I could find. A month of hard training for a half-marathon has
created definition in muscles I didn’t even know I had. Instead of cringing, I
So why then, am I reluctant to wear said ...
Last week I let a woman who reminded me of my grandmother
get to second base. It was my first time so I was nervous, but she was a pro.
In fact her cheerful manner as she squished my breasts into
the mammogram machine actually may have made the entire experience less awkward
than the first time I was felt up—at age 15.
What made the day even more memorable is that not more than
an hour before my topless experience, I was deep into my first-ever therapy
session. If I had added a colonoscopy to the day, I ...
Have you ever taken one of those personality tests? Pretty
certain I’ve taken nearly all of them during my career. One told me I was a sea
otter, another a shepherd, another a maximizer and yet another said I was an
I’ve been thinking a lot about personality lately as I try
to figure out what it is I want to do with the rest of my life, professionally
My conclusion is that these personality tests are bullshit.
If an employer really wanted a truthful evaluation, they would require the
questions be filled out by ...