Category archives: Aging Gracefully

We All Become Orphans at Some Point Bookmark and Share

I’ve been thinking of my grandfather lately, which is odd because he passed away two decades ago and I haven’t thought much about him since. The ugly truth is that his death didn’t really affect me, and it wasn’t all that surprising.

Though my grandfather was only 69 at the time, he had already suffered one heart attack and had developed emphysema caused by years of smoking a pipe. A number of his siblings had already died of heart disease.

What I remember most about his funeral was my dad’s grief and how it baffled ...

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Have You Gotten Happier with Age? Bookmark and Share

As I was reading an article on happiness—much of the tips I’ve heard before—the final fact caught my eye. It said that people naturally become happier with age, particularly after hitting middle age.

Being on the cusp of middle age, I was intrigued. The article mentioned a number of scientific theories: we remember happy memories more strongly than negative ones, we weed out people and things that make us unhappy and we focus less on goals and more on well-being.

This last part aligns with a theory I’ve been developing about capacity. In talking with friends ...

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Is There an Age Limit for Bikinis? Bookmark and Share

In preparation for an upcoming family weekend at an indoor water park, I made a bold move. I found my bikini tucked in the back of the drawer and put it on—in the dead of winter. Brave!

Shockingly, my pasty-white reflection in the mirror didn’t cause me to run screaming from the bathroom and into the first pair of sweatpants I could find. A month of hard training for a half-marathon has created definition in muscles I didn’t even know I had. Instead of cringing, I felt proud.

So why then, am I reluctant to wear said ...

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Mammograms, Therapy and Other Midlife Firsts Bookmark and Share

Last week I let a woman who reminded me of my grandmother get to second base. It was my first time so I was nervous, but she was a pro.

In fact her cheerful manner as she squished my breasts into the mammogram machine actually may have made the entire experience less awkward than the first time I was felt up—at age 15.

What made the day even more memorable is that not more than an hour before my topless experience, I was deep into my first-ever therapy session. If I had added a colonoscopy to the day, I ...

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Why Personality Tests Say Nothing About You Bookmark and Share

Have you ever taken one of those personality tests? Pretty certain I’ve taken nearly all of them during my career. One told me I was a sea otter, another a shepherd, another a maximizer and yet another said I was an introverted perfectionist.

I’ve been thinking a lot about personality lately as I try to figure out what it is I want to do with the rest of my life, professionally speaking.

My conclusion is that these personality tests are bullshit. If an employer really wanted a truthful evaluation, they would require the questions be filled out by ...

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