Category archives: Life Reflections

A Blast from the Past Can Be a Needed Kick in the Ass Bookmark and Share

A Blast from the Past Can Be a Needed Kick in the Ass

The universe is at it again. This time in the form of an out-of-the-blue call from a former colleague I haven’t spoken with in more than a year. He and another former coworker were in town on business and wanted to see if I might be able to get together for a drink or dinner.

It was a last-minute request, and my schedule wouldn’t allow for it. Still, we chatted for about 20 minutes, and it felt great to catch up. We’d survived some difficult work challenges together over the years, and I realized how much I ...

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Who Knew Bouncing Was So Much Fun? Bookmark and Share

When my husband suggested a staycation earlier this year, I was skeptical—and a bit bitter about the prospect. It’s been a number of years since we’ve had what I would call a vacation getaway.

However, a backyard vacation made the most sense given that we didn’t want to leave our aging cat alone for an extended period of time, and we have a basement we want to remodel this year. So we set some ground rules: no checking in with work, no excessive computer use, lots of dining out so there wouldn’t be a kitchen ...

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Boundaries=Balance=Happiness Bookmark and Share

It’s been four months since I wrote a blog post—and here’s why. I’ve been searching for the elusive key to happiness. Now that I’ve found it, I can share. The key (at least for me) is boundaries.

Sadly, boundaries are my Achilles heel—and I’ve developed one hell of an aching foot (not just because of my plantar fasciitis flare up). In fact, due to my inability to erect boundaries, my entire body is suffering and so are my mind, the cleanliness of my house, my friendships, my family and my own happiness.

When ...

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The Best-Laid Plans Sometimes Require Improv Bookmark and Share

How does one find oneself in the parking lot of a retail store eating yogurt with a fork in her car?

Not a cup of yogurt, mind you, but a dinner-sized yogurt-fruit-granola parfait. And the store was appropriately, in this case, named Hobo, which is what I felt like huddled in the front seat, wondering whether an officer would come knocking on the window asking what the hell I was doing.

What I was doing was improvising. The day hadn’t gone exactly as planned. My well-thought-out plan was this: a morning lovingly sending my daughter off to school, followed ...

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How Do You Learn to Trust Yourself? Bookmark and Share

How do you establish trust with someone you’ve betrayed too many times? And what if the person you’ve betrayed is yourself?

Trusting themselves seems so easy for men, but I’m not certain the same holds true for women. Personally, I second guess myself all the time and I have plenty of friends who do the same. The problem is that for most of my life, I had lied to myself, so much so that I didn’t even realize I was lying anymore.

For years, I thought I was healthy because I woke up at 5:30 ...

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