Category archives: Life Reflections

How Do You Determine How Much Are You Worth? Bookmark and Share

How Do You Determine How Much Are You Worth?

Any woman nearing middle age—or in denial that she is in middle age because once you hit 40, middle age is always 10 years older than you are—has learned never to ask the question: “Does this make me look fat?”

It’s, of course, an unfair question because if you’re asking it, you already think you look fat. So basically you’re asking the recipient of your question to either lie or hurt your feelings.

The wise nearly middle-aged woman simply says to herself, “so what if my ass looks huge, these pants are fun and I ...

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Time Travel: 40-Something Style Bookmark and Share

Time Travel: 40-Something Style

Have you ever felt that confusing feeling that you’ve slipped into some kind of time-warped parallel universe? I’m not talking about time travel or even déjà vu. I’m referring to the feeling you get when you are experiencing a moment from the viewpoint of yourself at two different ages in time.

This past weekend I experienced a trifecta of space-time weirdness when in the course of one evening, I felt 13, 22 and 41.

My husband and I went out for dinner and drinks with my college and post-college roommate and her husband. At one point in ...

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Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself? Bookmark and Share

Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself?

“To thine own self be true.”

Shakespeare said it best. Of course, he was a dude, and having a penis seems to make it easier to live by this sentiment. (Yep, starting of this post with the “P” word!)

I’ve never met a woman of any age who hasn’t struggled with being true to herself. From the time we are born, we seem to spend our lives living up to others’ expectations and needs. The good news, I’m finding, is that with age, we begin to listen to our needs. Or maybe it’s that our needs ...

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Times of Transition: How to Forge Through the Rings of Hell Bookmark and Share

Times of Transition: How to Forge Through the Rings of Hell

This week I found myself sobbing uncontrollably in the bathroom. This was unexpected given that I’m not at all a crybaby. (Friends have told me I’d feel better if I cried more, but isn’t stoicism so much more productive?)

It seems, however, the transition from renting urbanite to suburban home owner—and all that entailed mentally and physically—had taken me down the road toward a pity party of one.

What I’ve learned about transitions in the past decade is that they are essential to our growth, but they are also akin to forging through Dante ...

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Why We Finally Caved to the ‘American Dream’ Bookmark and Share

Why We Finally Caved to the ‘American Dream’

My husband and I have done two things we said we’d never do (and neither was reminiscent of 50 Shades of Grey). We bought a house and it’s in the suburbs.

Isn’t this the American Dream? Perhaps for many people it is, but it’s never been our dream.

After a condo-owning fiasco, we had sworn we’d never own property again. We’d happily fork over cash to a landlord if it meant trading in home maintenance and a hefty mortgage for more fun things, like dining out and European vacations.

Plus, our anti-car sentiment has ...

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