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A Night in My College Town Made Me Feel Young -- and Really Old Bookmark and Share

A Night in My College Town Made Me Feel Young -- and Really Old

If you want to feel delightfully young and horrifically ancient at the same time, go out on a Saturday night with your former roommate and your husbands in the town you where you went to college.

This is the lesson I learned recently while sipping a sugary Long Island iced tea the size of a Big Gulp (only $4!). This disgusting concoction seemed like a great idea after four glasses of wine and a comment from the bartender that I was old enough to be his mother.

OK, so that’s an exaggeration. What actually happened is I told the ...

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A Beautiful Fall into Middle Age Bookmark and Share

A Beautiful Fall into Middle Age

It happens every September. That moment when I notice how the sky has taken on a brilliant blue hue that happens only in fall. The angle of the sun hits in a way that makes everything glow. The air takes on a crispness even when the temps are high.

 It’s at that moment each year when my heart sings, full of joy I can hardly contain. Maybe it’s because I was born in October, but fall has always been my favorite season. The world seems at its most exquisite.

 

When I entered my 40s two years ago, I ...

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Time Travel: 40-Something Style Bookmark and Share

Time Travel: 40-Something Style

Have you ever felt that confusing feeling that you’ve slipped into some kind of time-warped parallel universe? I’m not talking about time travel or even déjà vu. I’m referring to the feeling you get when you are experiencing a moment from the viewpoint of yourself at two different ages in time.

This past weekend I experienced a trifecta of space-time weirdness when in the course of one evening, I felt 13, 22 and 41.

My husband and I went out for dinner and drinks with my college and post-college roommate and her husband. At one point in ...

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Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself? Bookmark and Share

Have You Learned to Be True to Yourself?

“To thine own self be true.”

Shakespeare said it best. Of course, he was a dude, and having a penis seems to make it easier to live by this sentiment. (Yep, starting of this post with the “P” word!)

I’ve never met a woman of any age who hasn’t struggled with being true to herself. From the time we are born, we seem to spend our lives living up to others’ expectations and needs. The good news, I’m finding, is that with age, we begin to listen to our needs. Or maybe it’s that our needs ...

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Do You Yes When You Should Say No? Bookmark and Share

In preparation for the Mardi Gras celebration at my daughter’s school, I found myself blowing up festive balloons in purple, green and gold for a giant balloon drop. Who doesn’t love balloons, right?

Me, that’s who. In fact I hate them. It goes beyond hate. I’m mildly terrified of them. Watching someone rub a balloon on their head and stick it on the wall fills me with panic.

It’s an irrational fear that stems back to childhood when I watched one of those giant punching balloons explode on my babysitter’s face as she tried ...

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