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Boundaries=Balance=Happiness Bookmark and Share

It’s been four months since I wrote a blog post—and here’s why. I’ve been searching for the elusive key to happiness. Now that I’ve found it, I can share. The key (at least for me) is boundaries.

Sadly, boundaries are my Achilles heel—and I’ve developed one hell of an aching foot (not just because of my plantar fasciitis flare up). In fact, due to my inability to erect boundaries, my entire body is suffering and so are my mind, the cleanliness of my house, my friendships, my family and my own happiness.

When ...

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Lessons from the First Week Back to Work Bookmark and Share

Lessons from the First Week Back to Work

It’s been 12 years since I have started a new job. I had forgotten how physically and emotionally draining the first few days, weeks and maybe even months can be.

After a whirlwind first day, spent meeting new coworkers and going through a massive project list followed by rushing home to wolf down food and get my daughter to gymnastics, I crawled into bed exhausted. Yet sleep eluded me.

My brain was stuck on repeat: “must process, must process.” I tossed and turned and had weird dreams. When the alarm finally went off, my inner introvert pulled her head ...

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How Do You Learn to Trust Yourself? Bookmark and Share

How do you establish trust with someone you’ve betrayed too many times? And what if the person you’ve betrayed is yourself?

Trusting themselves seems so easy for men, but I’m not certain the same holds true for women. Personally, I second guess myself all the time and I have plenty of friends who do the same. The problem is that for most of my life, I had lied to myself, so much so that I didn’t even realize I was lying anymore.

For years, I thought I was healthy because I woke up at 5:30 ...

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Free(lance) at Last Bookmark and Share

Today is my first day of self-employment. It is both exhilarating and terrifying. I feel lost and liberated.

I never thought this day would come. I assumed I would always love office life. Working in teams, strategic planning, coworker happy hours. Sign me up for overtime! Work was a happy place of refuge and I excelled at being a model employee.

Over the years, like when I got laid off or when I thought my boss would push me toward Xanax, my husband would ask me why I didn’t freelance. After all I’m a writer and editor by ...

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My power struggle with work and how I finally won Bookmark and Share

For Christmas my boss gave me a copy of the book he’s been reading, “Crossing the Unknown Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity.” I feel it both ironic and mildly amusing that the book now sits on my nightstand next to one I’ve been reading, “When Work Doesn’t Work Anymore: Women, Work and Identity.”

Work and identity—for me an almost impossible puzzle to figure out. You see, I started working at age 14 and my job soon became a place of refuge. At my job, I could be a superstar. I was noticed. I was ...

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