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Don't Let the Holidays Claim Your Sanity Bookmark and Share

Regular crazy was replaced by holiday crazy last week. In the days leading up to the long weekend, which included friends from out of town, my daughter’s birthday, Thanksgiving and two family Christmas parties, I became a mega bitch.

 As much as I’d like to blame the steroids I was temporarily on, I cannot. My husband aptly noted that my pre-event frenzy was completely predictable.

Shockingly I didn't get pissed off by his comment, because I recognized the truth in it. When it comes to events and hosting, I tend to go a bit overboard. The frustrating ...

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Are You Able to Let Go of Expectations? Bookmark and Share

Maybe it’s because the holidays are just around the corner, but it seems that a number of my recent conversations with friends have dealt with expectations. More specifically, an inability to meet them.

After a visit to her home state, one friend questioned how she could possibly see all of the relatives who want her to come for dinner or pop in to say hello. The answer is, of course, that she can’t and so she ends up feeling badly about it.

I remember those visits—usually they encompassed an early morning flight and four days spent in ...

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Life Unscheduled Bookmark and Share

In the past month, I’ve driven my car only twice. Not once have I said, “Hurry up. We’re going to be late.” I haven’t donned a watch, so most days, at any given time, I have no idea what time it is.

I’ve had a month-long reprieve from logistics. It’s like living in some kind of weird utopia where time stands still, or like being on vacation but in your day-to-day life.

It is refreshing and more than a little unnerving.

My life, like so many of ours, is often ruled by the calendar and ...

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Push through life’s storm even when it blinds you Bookmark and Share

My life right now is blurry—not unlike today’s blizzard-like conditions. Sometimes, though, you have to push through the storm even when the snow is blinding.

Two nights ago I had dinner with a dear friend who reminded me of a drive we took through the mountains two Januarys ago. We were headed for a girlfriends’ weekend during which 10 of us would celebrate a friend’s 40th birthday. She was the first to head into this unchartered territory.

As my friend and I headed through a giant “bowl” in the mountains, we suddenly found ourselves in a swirling ...

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Adolescence ends when you finally admit you still need your parents Bookmark and Share

Psychologists say that increased fighting between adolescents and parents is part of a natural process of a child breaking away and becoming independent. But has anyone else had an adolescence that extended 25 years?

Yep, instead of a few years of being a teenage bitch, I spent more than two decades trying to separate myself from my parents. At the age of 26, I moved 1,000 miles away from my childhood home just to get some distance. It didn’t seem like that was the reason at the time—I was merely starting a fun new life with my ...

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