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A Night in My College Town Made Me Feel Young -- and Really Old Bookmark and Share

A Night in My College Town Made Me Feel Young -- and Really Old

If you want to feel delightfully young and horrifically ancient at the same time, go out on a Saturday night with your former roommate and your husbands in the town you where you went to college.

This is the lesson I learned recently while sipping a sugary Long Island iced tea the size of a Big Gulp (only $4!). This disgusting concoction seemed like a great idea after four glasses of wine and a comment from the bartender that I was old enough to be his mother.

OK, so that’s an exaggeration. What actually happened is I told the ...

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A Blast from the Past Can Be a Needed Kick in the Ass Bookmark and Share

A Blast from the Past Can Be a Needed Kick in the Ass

The universe is at it again. This time in the form of an out-of-the-blue call from a former colleague I haven’t spoken with in more than a year. He and another former coworker were in town on business and wanted to see if I might be able to get together for a drink or dinner.

It was a last-minute request, and my schedule wouldn’t allow for it. Still, we chatted for about 20 minutes, and it felt great to catch up. We’d survived some difficult work challenges together over the years, and I realized how much I ...

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How Do We Keep From Losing Ourselves? Bookmark and Share

How Do We Keep From Losing Ourselves?

This month one of my book clubs read “Where’d You Go, Bernadette?,” a fictional story of a highly creative, up-and-coming architect who becomes a recluse after suffering a professionally tragedy. After years of keeping to herself—and becoming more than a bit nutty in the process—she actually physically disappears to Antarctica of all places, and her husband and daughter must find her. 

I wanted to love the book since it had rave reviews, but even though it was funny at times, I couldn’t suspend my disbelief enough. Antarctica? Really?

The real problem, though, was that I somehow ...

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Time Travel: 40-Something Style Bookmark and Share

Time Travel: 40-Something Style

Have you ever felt that confusing feeling that you’ve slipped into some kind of time-warped parallel universe? I’m not talking about time travel or even déjà vu. I’m referring to the feeling you get when you are experiencing a moment from the viewpoint of yourself at two different ages in time.

This past weekend I experienced a trifecta of space-time weirdness when in the course of one evening, I felt 13, 22 and 41.

My husband and I went out for dinner and drinks with my college and post-college roommate and her husband. At one point in ...

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Can Home Depot Make You Hotter? Bookmark and Share

Can Home Depot Make You Hotter?

 Cat calls, whistles, inappropriate under-the-breath comments.

Haven’t we women all felt that sickening feeling in the pits of our stomachs when we must walk solo passed a group of guys? We shrink up as small as possible as we slink by, desperately telling ourselves, “don’t make eye contact, don’t make eye contact” while simultaneously praying, “please don’t look at me, please don’t look at me.”

These situations drove me crazy in my 20s and early 30s. I’d taken enough women’s lit classes in college to know that all of these things were degrading ...

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