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I’m Grateful Anger No Longer Consumes Me Bookmark and Share

I’m Grateful Anger No Longer Consumes Me

This morning as I lay on the living floor doing extremely uncomfortable physical therapy exercises for my neck, an unexpected thought popped into my head: I am so grateful I’m not angry all the time any more.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving so feelings of gratitude shouldn’t be surprising, but I wasn’t quite sure where this one came from. Yet, it is truly what I am most thankful for this year.

When I returned to work full time last February, my biggest fear was turning back into “scary mommy.” I had spent the previous two years trying to figure ...

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Have You Gotten Happier with Age? Bookmark and Share

As I was reading an article on happiness—much of the tips I’ve heard before—the final fact caught my eye. It said that people naturally become happier with age, particularly after hitting middle age.

Being on the cusp of middle age, I was intrigued. The article mentioned a number of scientific theories: we remember happy memories more strongly than negative ones, we weed out people and things that make us unhappy and we focus less on goals and more on well-being.

This last part aligns with a theory I’ve been developing about capacity. In talking with friends ...

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Mammograms, Therapy and Other Midlife Firsts Bookmark and Share

Last week I let a woman who reminded me of my grandmother get to second base. It was my first time so I was nervous, but she was a pro.

In fact her cheerful manner as she squished my breasts into the mammogram machine actually may have made the entire experience less awkward than the first time I was felt up—at age 15.

What made the day even more memorable is that not more than an hour before my topless experience, I was deep into my first-ever therapy session. If I had added a colonoscopy to the day, I ...

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Lessons in Kindness from Someone Else’s Child Bookmark and Share

Each day I leave my nice, cushy neighborhood to drive across town to my daughter’s school. It is an 18-minute lesson in gratitude and guilt.

The route is nearly equal parts churches, daycares, convenience stores, bars and boarded up buildings. People wait for busses in clothing not nearly warm enough for the subzero temps. It is a daily reminder that my upper-middle class life is one of privilege.

Because my freelance work allows me flexibility, I regularly spend time in my daughter’s classroom. I have the privilege of seeing her teacher in action, of seeing the children learn ...

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A Belated New Year’s Resolution to Be On Time Bookmark and Share

Many of you have likely already declared your New Year’s resolutions. In typical fashion, I am running a bit late. This is particularly amusing to me and slightly hypocritical given that my first resolution for this year is: Don’t be late.

When it comes to running late, I could challenge Alice’s White Rabbit for top honors. I’ve actually found myself darting through the house, yelling “We’re late! We’re late! Hurry up, we’re late!”

Since I don’t live in Wonderland and constantly running late causes stress, it’s time for a change.

Being ...

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