Tag archives: love

A bit of distance in marriage sometimes helps you go the distance Bookmark and Share

My husband will soon be halfway around the world on a lengthy business trip. I don’t want him to go. Not because I will be a single parent for three weeks, or because my daughter and I may run out of clean clothes because I won’t remember how to use the washing machine, or because I will have to take his place at father-daughter dance rehearsals.

My reason is simple: we are currently in a good patch. Anyone in a long-term relationship knows exactly what I’m talking about. Marriage is a roller coaster. The key to hanging ...

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Giving up the teenage dream Bookmark and Share

At 17, I planned out my entire life until age 30: a college degree and marriage by 22 followed by two children (girl then boy), a master’s degree and a fulfilling professional career by 30. My plans didn’t go beyond that, so apparently I was going to drop dead or go insane after that crazy journey.

This plan made perfect sense in my naïve mind. I was already engaged (feel free to roll your eyes, I always do when I think of it) and had begun freshman year of college. Fortunately, it didn’t pan out. Instead college ...

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Hugs no longer scare me Bookmark and Share

Early in my friendship with my only friend from the South, she said to me, “You are the friend I touch the least. You visible cringe when you see me coming.” It was an alarming statement—not because she said it, but because it was true.

Affection makes me nervous. When my own brothers hugged me the day of my college graduation, I felt awkward. When I visited my parents and they embraced me at the airport, I always held back. It felt odd to feel so uncomfortable, but I chalked it up to being Midwestern and coming from a ...

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My mother: what I still have time say Bookmark and Share

Yesterday, I read an amazing post by Megan O’Rourke, whose mother died when she was 32, called “My Mother: What I wish I could say.” It is a touching tribute to the little and big things that we can longer say once someone is gone. It inspired me to write this post because I am lucky enough to have this day to say some of the things that I haven’t said.

I hope you’ll share with me the things you want to say to your mother (or whomever), but more important I hope it inspires you to ...

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Patience and love in the new year Bookmark and Share

Patience and love in the new year

Experts say that if you want to keep your resolutions, you should make them very specific and measurable. So that’s what I did last year—with mixed results.

My list for 2012 included things such as call brothers once a month (lasted until April), run twice a week (started, got injured and restarted), watch one movie a week (not a chance in hell), finish lavender sweater (ditched the sweater and went for a scarf instead, which still isn’t finished) and a host of other items.

These were all good resolutions, but they didn’t seem to really change ...

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