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Know When to Hold ’Em”: Playing the Forgiveness Card Bookmark and Share

Know When to Hold ’Em”: Playing the Forgiveness Card

Nothing taps into the hopeless romantic buried deep beneath my sarcastic exterior like a wedding. Such a magical event—the couple who radiates happiness, the toasts that bring on laughter and tears, the music and dancing (I especially love that part!).

I love it all really, but the longer I am married, the more it is the ceremony itself that affects me. Two optimistic souls saying, “I’m a nut job. You’re a nut job. Let’s see if we can win this game of life together.”

Ok, so that’s not in most vows, but isn’t it ...

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What Does Happily Ever After Really Mean? Bookmark and Share

What Does Happily Ever After Really Mean?

This week my parents celebrated 42 years of marriage. In a Facebook, my mother pondered if anyone truly understands the promises they are making when they get married. Her conclusion was that they don’t. Anyone who’s been married a decent length of time would probably agree—I know I do.

I’m glad my parents didn’t have a clue when they said their vows because they may not have followed through. My childhood wasn’t exactly spent basking in the warmth of their happy marriage. My parents wed at ages 19 and 21. They had me a ...

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Who Needs Flowers? Has Your Idea of Romance Changed? Bookmark and Share

Who Needs Flowers? Has Your Idea of Romance Changed?

My husband isn’t a flower man. He’s much too practical to buy something that will die in a week. In fact, I can count on one hand the number of times in our 17-year relationship that he’s given me flowers.

There was my birthday two months after we started dating and a few times when he was working as a bike courier. (Let me tell you, a bleached blond, tan, fit bike courier bringing you flowers on a Friday evening is hot—even if it is your husband!). And there was last year right after a wonderful ...

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Wedding Vows after 13 Years of Marriage Bookmark and Share

My husband and I celebrate lucky number 13 today. We will have a nice dinner, throw back a few drinks and enjoy the quiet since our daughter is with my parents, but for the most part, we’ll leave the fanfare to more newly-married couples.

We won’t reflect upon our wedding vows because, quite frankly, it’s unlikely either of us remember them. I don’t at least.

I’m sure they said something about promising to love, respect and cherish. To me, the first two were prerequisites to the wedding ceremony itself. The third makes me envision a ...

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Can You Pack Up Your Youth? Bookmark and Share

As we slowly box up our house for our move from Denver to Milwaukee, it seems as though I’m not just closing the lid on the Colorado chapter of our lives. I am also shutting the door to my youth.

Flipping through photo albums (real ones not digital), I marvel at the fresh, hopeful, totally wrinkle-free faces that gaze leisurely back at me. How smooth my skin was, how smoking hot my husband was, how freely we smiled.

We weren’t children when we moved to Colorado, but this sunny state is where we became adults. Here is where ...

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